A house is a structure as the other poster put it, but a home is the people who live in the house and make it a safe and pleasant place to be. You've heard quotes such as "Keep the home fires burning" (during the wars years) and the oldie but goodie "Home is where the heart is." You can live in a beautiful home, but if you have no one to love and share it with, then it's just a plain house no matter how fancy it is. Poor or rich, no children or a dozen children, adults have the control to make any place a good home.

A home can be anywhere you live -- your home may be a mobile home, or a motor home, or an igloo. For some, home can be an abandoned warehouse on Main Street in Anywhere, MSIA. You can call an apartment your home. As they say, "Home is where the heart is."

But a house is a physical structure with walls and a roof and a door. An apartment would not be considered your "house" :)

*HOME SWEET HOME*

Jealousy A sign of love??

Jealousy can have many reasons. It says often more about yourself than about your relationship. You find yourself not attractive and you think you will lose your partner because he or she is more attractive. But that is the wrong attitude if you love each other it doesn't matter if an ohter person is more attractive or smarter it is the inside of you that your partner like.

Jealousy means in fact that you don't have the power to give your partner some freedom and that is wrong because love means that you trust each other and jealousy is a wrong sign. It means that you are not sure of your partner or that you are afraid to lose him or her. If the love is real there is no reason to doubt and you need to threw away these wrong ideas because it can cause problems in your relationship.

Jealousy can also mean that you are afraid, afraid to be alone if your partner will leave you.

Jealousy is in fact a possessive sign, it shows that you think you own your partner, which is a wrong sign.
Don't let jealousy play an important rule in your relation because your partner needs also other social contacts and you need to accept that and to trust each other.

*AFRAID TO BE ALONE*

Making Small Talk...

For most people,barbecues,parties,lunches and weddings conjure up images of mouth-watering food,interesting people and a relaxing time.For some,such social events resemble nightmares.Are you tired of watching social butterflies flit from one group to another exuding confidence and jolly laughters as you grip your glass and grit your teeth painfully waiting for the second hand to slowly tick by??
it's easy to dismiss the importance of informal functions but believe it or not,many extraordinary events take place at these dos - opportunities knock,deals are closed and kindred spirits connect.
Become a social butterfly yourself by remembering these key points :-

Be approachable...
Take a deep breath.Smile.Relax.Look around to see if anyone is standing alone like you are.You'll be surprised to find out that there are nervous people out there.Approach them if they smile in return.Start with a "HELLO" and let the conversation flow naturally.
It's absolutely alright if nobody talks for awhile - we do need to breathe every now and then.In fact,being a good listener is also part and parcel of being a good conversationalist.Remember to keep your comments light and positive..Keep your complaints to yourself...

Being Prepared...
Since you're there to socialise,having a few questions on everyday topics can start or steer a conversation long.Closed questions allow the other person to respond easily with a "yes" or "no" and elaborate further if they want to.
Open questions invite the other person to talk about the topic in detail and help the both of you to find similar areas of interest.If you're out of ideas and furnishing and decorations,the food being served and the people around you may give you ideas of comments to make and question to ask.Besides everyday topics,your personal favourites are also interesting matter.
If you're lucky,you may meet someone you can click with instantly but be mindful of sidelining others in the room.Make a mental note to exchange contacts with your kindred spirit and get the conversation back to the group.

Be Yourself...
Nobody is more interested than someone who is genuinely interested to hear what you have to say.

Be Sensible...
:)

there is always a "goodbye"

sigh.....i know you have to go...i do agree with the reason...that is the best choice for you i admit...


1st of all...i wanna apologize to you...i'm really sorry for what i had done to you...calling you as "driver" and stuff...hmmm....really sorry if i did anything wrong...i really do...

next i would like to THANK YOU....omg!!>...A VERY BIG THANK YOU for you.....u know what i mean rite....for all the help.....fetching me....doing all those stuff..haha!!....THANK YOU SO MUCH...

and last but not least.....i would like to wish you all the best....I hope u will excel in your future :)...wheee.....


DUN FORGET 6 SETIA YEA !!.....must hang out whenever we are free...keep in touch through phone or facebook :)....wheee.....

*TERPISAH doesn't mean BERPISAH*

My Family...

I decided to share about it because most of friends is having the same problem.It is quite a sad thing to talk about it.Whenever I thought about it or heard about it from my friends make me feel really down..

PAST IS HISTORY

The reason why i wanna share about it is because I want my friend to know not only her is having this problem.I want her to know that her friends is also having the same problem.I admit it is hard to endure this feelings but we must not avoid it..

My story goes like this......

I'm once a happy go lucky kid in my family.Whatever I want, I will get it.Until when i was 14 which is 4 years back.I noticed my parents were quarreling and they seems to communicate lesser.As I'm still young,I do not know what is exactly happening.During that period of time,I saw ALOT of unpleasant things.It is such a embarrassing act for an adult.

My mom is the one who suffered the most.She is totally tensed.When i wanna talk to her,she will raise her voice ad all.It makes me to talk lesser with her....

As we grow older becoming a teenager and know more friends,we tend to hang out more often.Everytime I ask permission to go out and when my MOM doesn't give me a green light,I will get angry ad always complain about it.Because of this,my mom got really angry ad she will say that I'm not respecting her as my mother i other words being rebellious.I do feel sad about it.There is once I didn't talk to my mom for a couple of months.When I saw her,I don't even call her as what i used to do.Both of us just kept quiet during that period of time...

In the end...my sis...aunts.uncles..grandma advised me about what had I done and stuff like that..I know I'm wrong but my mom is also wrong...normally human won't admit they're wrong...

I decided to apologize to my mom..and guess what...The things seems to get better...we tend to communicate more..hmmmm

When i grow older,I tend to understand why parents do not allow us to go out so often and come back so late....
the reason is because :-
1)as a parents,they take care of us for so many years already...their love towards us not as what we think...so if anything happen,they will be so depressed.
2)If we go out often,the possibility of something happen to us is high.Parents do read newspaper and they knew that the community is not safe.Anything can happen anytime anywhere...


When they ground us,we tend to be rebellious like showing our anger ad things like that...

sometimes parents is also unfair..they tend to let their son to go out more often than their daughters..The reason is because,,girls is more vulnerable if compare to guys..Every news that came out is all about girls...GUYS DONT GET RAPE rite??? so parents is more worried about their daughters...

sometimes i would want my mom to concern more about me..I don't mind whether she lecture me or what..i just want her attention...HER ATTENTION !!

Its been 4 years,my siblings and I stay with my mother after they got divorced..My dad took a lump sum of money with him and her even surrendered my insurance and my sis insurance money..My mom is totally broke..I understand her feelings and all..She told me what happened and all...SHE USED TO ONLY TELL ALL THIS TO MY SIS BUT NOT ME....I guess i get what i've been wanting...HER ATTENTION...it seems that I get her trust and yes indeed she trust me more than ever..I HAPPY OF IT...


My point of this story is to tell YOU that not only you is having this problem..Its hard to talk or explain to your parents when they are angry...they wont even listen to you so DO NOT be sad if they wouldn't want to listen..these is already planted in every parents' genes...we cant help it...
they only way to let them know is :-
1) talk to you relative..THEY KNOW WHAT THEY'RE SUPPOSE TO DO..
2)talk to your elder brother/elder sister..TRUST ME,THEY CARE FOR YOU MORE THEN YOU CAN IMAGINE ALTHOUGH THEY BULLY OR TEASE YOU ALWAYS..
3)write a letter..explain it in detail...and write they your intention is not bad...and you know what they feel...the...put at a place where they can find it easily...
4)if you do not want to write letter...you can always send a message :)


let say,if you are angry....will u listen to someone's explanation ?hmmmm


Every parents do quarrel with each other..They do now know that we as their children is actually baring the consequences.We cant do anything.All we can do is only watch then go moody..Once in a white parents need us to "teman" them especially our MOM...

in conclusion,parents do care for us "BEAT IS CARE,SCOLD IS LOVE"  we must understand them..


This post is dedicated to YOU..it is based on a true story that happened to me..I hope you don't get upset with it ad I do hope your relationship between your parents especially your MOM with you would be better..


GOD created a hard life for all of us to make us stronger...

this is a extract of a song...hmmm
"life is a road i wanna keep going..
 love is a river i wanna keep flowing..
 life is a road,now and forever wonderful journey..
 I'll be there when the world stop turning..
 I'll be there when the storm is through"

That is why GOD created family and friends for us...
TO SUPPORT US..
TO ENCOURAGE US..
TO HELP US...
TO BE WITH US...
appreciate them...they meant alot for us...

ONCE AGAIN...I HOPE YOU RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARENTS WILL BE BETTER....

*GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS*